Welcome to my first ever MONDAY MUSE! I fully intend to express my inspiration for the day, whether it be something beautiful, superficial, imaginative, or physical. Some days are better than others for fulfilling the need for a creative muse, but I choose Mondays to write about it. Come on now, I’m sick of seeing Mondays getting knocked around. You don’t have to agree with me, but Mondays are an opportunity to find inspiration to kick off your week.
Beautiful Eyes and Butterfly Eyelashes
Be it superficial, I love eyeballs. I find there is so much beauty and power with making eye contact with someone. Today I am proudly sporting my new mascara from https://www.youniqueproducts.com/…/prod…/view/US-1017-00 . My eyelashes feel like butterflies and it makes me smile. Now…. no one else, except another eyelash-obsessed woman, would feel the same as I, so it’s not that I do it for anyone else BUT my own excitement. It’s important to remember that a muse is strictly for your own inspiration and NOT for the attention of another person. Having a little something that makes you feel good can inspire the rest of your day to it’s full potential (No couch potatoes here).
I feel that bright, fierce, assertive eye contact is key to building and carrying self confidence.
I work in customer service. Not the sexy phone voice type, but in your face, reading your body language, sending you away with a smile, and ensuring you had a good experience with our company (Ok, now get your mind out of the gutter…I sell video games). All too often, people are uncomfortable with making eye contact because there is so much power behind it, that if not use to the gaze, can cause you to feel very awkward. If mastered, however, eye contact is a wonderful tool; be it dating, work, leadership rolls, or emotions.
I found a short, but insightful article pop up on my Facebook yesterday http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201404/5-secret-powers-eye-contact (<<Here), and it made so much sense why I received some very unwanted, unintended, sexual attention from a co-worker at my new part time job. I tend to carry myself with a happy face and nonchalant disposition… where I truly DON’T CARE about what people think of me. I know I’m a good person, I know what my mistakes are, and I don’t need someone else’s opinion putting a ratchet in my gears. I choose not to care. My behavior in the work place entails a smile, eye contact, high fives, and creating a vibrant atmosphere. I’ve said two shittin’ words to this guy, and all of a sudden he’s making inappropriate comments and telling people about his “opinion” of me (yes I mentioned it to my supervisor for safety precautions). I can no longer be my normal self, I advert my eyes, mumble hello, and scurry on my way; so not to give him the wrong idea, apparently. Now writing this, I realize how stupid that sounds, to change my behavior. I do not need to “mouse-ify” (not a real word, but you get it) myself in order to gain respect or to lay boundaries. I am a leader and will continue to stand tall, fierce, and strong.
And so should you. Use the power of your beautiful eyes to gain respect and confidence. Play with it. Try not to look away so quickly when you meet someone’s gaze. Just beware…. there can be repercussions and unwanted attention. The repercussions may result in a new job, a lovely relationship, ending an abusive one, oh… and you may stand up straighter.